By Rodney Holmstrom, National Director West, Jan. 28, 2019
Have you been struggling with forgiving someone in your life? Maybe there is some overwhelming fears that are keeping you stuck. Maybe you’ve even thought something like this: “If I allow myself to forgive and become vulnerable to the one who hurt me, then they may hurt me again.”
When we are consumed with this fear, sometimes the best thing we can do is just… stop. Stop beating ourselves up on why won’t forgive that person. Stop… then shift our attention to why we are full of fear.
Take that fear, struggle, or anxiety to God. Instead of being consumed with the pressure to forgive that someone in your life, talk to God in an honest way. Say: “Lord, I am full of fear to open myself up and I need Your help.” Then God will begin to deal with that fear that has kept you from the blessing of forgiveness.
Sometimes we need a season of processing these fears with our Father, with your Celebrate Recovery accountability team, and especially with yourself. In His timing, come to understand that forgiveness is commanded by God. In knowing that it is a process and not just a snap of the fingers, God will begin to soften our heart to do this.
Forgiveness is a beautiful step and great act of obedience. Just like anything though, we can’t “make it happen”. We need God to give us the peace and strength to carry it out.
Meet Him where you are in this process. Keep your eyes on Him. He is the only true source of strength to carry this through.
Be blessed as you seek Him in your struggle.